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Restraining the Tongue from all Evils
The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said, “Most of the sins of the children of Aadam are by the tongue.”
In life we tend to be judgmental and very often look down upon others without exploring deeper and finding out why the person is behaving in such a way. The Beloved Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) is reported to have said: "It is enough of evil for a person to hold his brother Muslim in contempt. All of a Muslim is sacred to another Muslim: his blood, his wealth and his honour." (Saheeh Muslim)
A young couple moves into a new neighbourhood. The next morning while they are eating breakfast, the young woman sees her neighbour hanging the laundry outside.... Restraining The Tongue 21 Jan 2012 Hits:137
The original translation of this text has been edited for readability.
There are found amongst the people those that will backbite depending on the gathering, his companions and his associates whilst knowing that the one being backbitten is free of what they say, or of some of what he says. However, he sees that if he were to forbid them then the gathering will cease and the people in the gathering would become sullen and estranged from him. So he undertakes compliance with them just for good social relations as well as to retain companionship.
Then there are those that backbite in... Restraining The Tongue 01 Jan 2012 Hits:38 Imam al-Awzaa’ee1 once said,
“No-one has ever been afflicted in his Deen with an affliction worse than a loose tongue.” 2
From the signs that Allaah loves a person is that He delivers him from sin and afflictions in his Deen, He protects him from whatever will harm his Hereafter and certainly, He protects him from engaging in that which does not concern him.
The Messenger of Allaah (sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam) said, “From the best of one’s Islam is his abandoning that which does not concern him.” 3
Sometimes we find ourselves engaged in discussions that bring little benefit to us, other... Restraining The Tongue 23 Sep 2011 Hits:138 We live in a culture where telling lies is acceptable under certain circumstances. Jokes are laced with lies. To make lies seem more acceptable we even label some of them as "white lies". How many of us lie to extricate ourselves from difficulty or to get what we want? We may lie to get married by lying about our age. We lie to get a job by overstating our skills or experience. We may lie to our children to get them to make excuses for us when we don't want to answer the phone or if we want them to... Restraining The Tongue 21 Mar 2011 Hits:164 I will start working at a dealership showroom and it seems to me that most sales people are liars.
Let’s face it. Whether its business, keeping a relationship with your spouse, family, or your friends we can all agree trust is the single most important principle in order to maintain stability and comfort in your life.
From time to time, we forget we will be taken into account for how we used our tongues. Though many people are unaware of the seriousness of lying, we need to drill something into our hearts today and that is that we should always be aware... Restraining The Tongue 23 Aug 2010 Hits:319 Today Muslims now suffer from two rampant diseases, though immunity from them is easy for those who are protected by Allâh. These two diseases are backbiting and tale-bearing. Backbiting (Gheebah) denotes maligning a person and speaking evil about any of his characteristics or deeds. Many Muslims today are not free from indulging in backbiting people and criticizing them, despite the fact that those backbiters themselves are not free from fault! They harm themselves aswell as those who listen to their backbiting, those who listen without denouncing them.
O Muslims! Allah depicts those who backbite their fellow Muslims in the most repulsive... Restraining The Tongue 07 Jul 2010 Hits:323 The Tongue Expresses what is in the Heart The most important part of the body is the heart, as has been mentioned by our noble Prophet M uhammed (sallallahu'alayhi wasallam), “Indeed there is a piece of flesh in your body that, if it is sound, then the whole body will be sound, and if it is corrupt then the whole body will be corrupt. Indeed it is the heart.” (Sahih al-Bukhari [1/49] & Sahih al-Muslim [1599]) The heart is thus the port where all actions stem, whether good or evil. If the heart is good then the actions... Restraining The Tongue 07 Jul 2010 Hits:486 Backbiting – mere words – but they are words that bring upon the one who utters them shame and ignominy and may even consign him/her to the hellfire. Such a person has given in to his vain desires and succumbed to his destructive tendencies. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “A man might speak a word without thinking about its implications, but because of it, he will plunge into the Hellfire further than the distance between the east and west.” [Sahîh al-Bukhârî (6477) and Sahîh Muslim (2988)] A Muslim utters a word whereby he describes his fellow Muslim... Restraining The Tongue 07 Jul 2010 Hits:294 If any of us hear gossip about one of our brothers or sisters, we are enjoined to oppose it, and correct the speaker- gently, politely, and with wisdom - to the best of our ability. This is in accordance with the various ways of changing a bad deed which were described by the Messenger of Allah,
"Whoever of you sees an evil deed should change it with his hand [by acting], or if he cannot do that, then with his tongue [by speaking out], or if he cannot do that, then with his heart - and that is the weakest of... Restraining The Tongue 07 Jul 2010 Hits:447 The definition of backbiting has been clearly explained in the hadeeth reported by Muslim (4/2001) upon the authority of Aboo Hurairah that the Messenger of Allaah (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) said, “Do you know what backbiting is?” They said: “Allaah and His Messenger know best.” He said, “Mentioning your brother with that which he dislikes.” It was said to the Prophet (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam): “Even if what I mention about my brother is true?” He (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) said, “If what you have said concerning him is true, then surely you have backbitten him; and if what you... Restraining The Tongue 07 Jul 2010 Hits:365The Dirty Laundry
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Speech without Words
Tales of the Unworthy?
Tell the Truth Pinnochio…
Warning Against Backbitting And Tale-Carrying
The Bad Consequences of the Tongue
The Evils of Backbiting
How To Stop Gossip
Backbiting
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