THE IDEAL MUSLIMAH

I will start working at a dealership showroom and it seems to me that most sales people are liars.

Let’s face it. Whether its business, keeping a relationship with your spouse, family, or your friends we can all agree trust is the single most important principle in order to maintain stability and comfort in your life.

From time to time, we forget we will be taken into account for how we used our tongues. Though many people are unaware of the seriousness of lying, we need to drill something into our hearts today and that is that we should always be aware of what we say before we say it. We don’t follow Pinocchio, we follow the Sunnah, let’s make it clear.

Of course we are not Angels, we are meant to be completely disciplined. In that case we have got to speak and live the truth, as many of us know even the hypocrites also say the Shahaadah (la ilaaha illa Allah), but what should separate you from the hypocrite is that you don’t just say the Shahaadah, you outright live it! Lying leads to more problems, you try to cover it up and you end up in a big mess.

You might think you got away with it, but you need to realize that Allah watches over everything. What’s strange is how people get so comfortable in lying or sinning and they laugh about it, as if they won’t be bought fourth on the Day of Judgment.

The reason why I decided to write about this was because I have seen consistently by looking at society that we like to over-exaggerate stories, sometimes we might even sugar coat them or we will just simply lie. Whatever the case, the point is we all have to develop Tawheed (the feeling of Allah’s Oneness) in our hearts. We have to constantly reaffirm our beliefs and keep ourselves in check, if you stay within good company, Inshaa'Allah (God Willing) they will help you. If not find some new friends.

What about April fools, is it haraam? What if someone says, 'I’m only joking'? Okay, is lying the same as joking? Our beloved Prophet Muhammad (s) would only joke if it was true. Like when the old woman came to him and she asked Prophet Muhammad (s) to make du'aa for her because she was old and wanted to go to heaven. He replied, “Old woman will not enter paradise”. When she heard this, she began crying, then he said, “Because all woman will enter paradise young”. Then she smiled, you see, that’s a real joke. Mashaa'Allah!

Let me quickly quote a verse in the Holy Quran “And do not say that of which you have no knowledge.” (17:36)

Also two serious hadeeth to wrap up my message, by our beloved Prophet Muhammad (s), “Truthfulness leads to piety and piety leads to the Paradise. A man should be truthful until he is written down as truthful with God. Lying leads to deviance and deviance leads to the Fire. A man will lie until he is written down as a liar with God.”

“If anyone has four characteristics, he is a pure hypocrite, and if anyone has one of them, he has an aspect of hypocrisy until he gives it up: whenever he is trusted, he betrays his trust; whenever he speaks, he lies; when he makes an agreement, he breaks it; and when he quarrels, he deviates from the truth by speaking falsely.”

So start watching what you say, if you’re having a problem, carry a mirror with you. May Allah help guard our mouths and give us the strength and intellect to enter Paradise.

And we don’t need lie detector tests, the Angels are recording everything!

Don’t lie like pinnochio, before you find that you are lying in the Grave...