THE IDEAL MUSLIMAH

This discussion of the intellectual, psychological and other qualities of the smart Muslim wife demonstrates that she is a successful wife, if not the most successful wife and the greatest blessing and good fortune that a man may enjoy.

By virtue of her understanding of Islamic teaching, and her fulfilling her duties towards her husband, she becomes the greatest joy of her husband’s life: when he comes home, she greets him with a warm and friendly smile, speaking kindly and sweetly, looking attractive and smart, with a clean and tidy house, pleasant conversation, and a table full of good food, pleasing him and making him happy.

She is obedient, kind and loving towards her husband, ever eager to please him. She does not disclose his secrets or upset his plans. She stands beside him at times of hardship, offering her support and wise advice. She shares his joys and sorrows. She endears herself to him by the way she looks and behaves, and fills his life with joy and happiness. She encourages him to obey Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) in different ways, and motivates him by joining him in different activities.

She respects his mother and family. She refrains from looking at other men. She keeps away from foolish and worthless talk. She is keen to provide an atmosphere of peace, tranquility and stability for her husband and children. She is strong of character without being rude or aggressive, and is kind and gentle without being weak. She earns the respect of those who speak to her. She is tolerant and forgiving, overlooking errors and never bearing grudges.

Thus the Muslim wife deserves to be the most successful wife. She is the greatest blessing that Allah (subhaanahu wa ta’aalaa) may bestow upon a man, and an incomparable source of joy in this life.

The Prophet (peace be upon him) indeed spoke the truth when he said, “This world is nothing but temporary conveniences, and the greatest joy in this wold is a righteous woman.”^{Sahih Muslim, 10/56, Kitab al-rida', bab istihbab nikah al-bikr.}

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References

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• Be Like Umm Zar': Speak Well of your Husband!
• Sharing Worries
• An Interview with Shaykh Ibn 'Uthaymeen’s Wife
• Increase Happiness in Your Marriage
• Never Describe Other Women to Your Husband
• How to Make Your Husband Happy
• Finding Bliss in Your Marriage
• Help Your Husband Pray at Night
• Have You Forgotten the Purpose Behind Marriage?
• Encourage Your Husband to Spend in the Way of Allah
• Dealing with the Critical Husband
• Create an Atmosphere of Peace and Tranquillity for Him
• Be a Tolerant and Forgiving Wife
• Beauty Queens Outside and Slobs Inside?
• Are you Cheerful when you meet your Husband?
• An Example of a Pious Wife
• A Muslimah’s Eyes Are Only for Her Husband
• A Muslimah Stands by her Husband and Offers Her Advice
• A Muslimah Fills her Husband's Heart with Joy
• A Muslim Woman Keeps Her Husbands Secrets
• A Muslim Wife Must be Strong and Wise
• 10 Tips on How to be a Successful Wife