I have never seen a wiser man than ash-Shafi’ee. I was arguing with him once about an issue and I left him. Then one day, he met me, held my hand and said: ‘Cannot we be brothers, even if we disagree about something?'
- Yunus as-Sadafi’
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Getting Married
Allah, the Mighty, revealed in the Qur'aan,
{One of His signs is this: that He has created mates for you from yourselves that you might tranquility in them, and He put between you love and compassion. Surely, there are signs in this for people who reflect.} [Qur'an 30:21]
Pearls Of Wisdom: Advice for the Bride
'Abdul-Malik (radiyallaahu 'anhaa) said, "When ‘Awf ibn Muhallim al-Shaybani, one of the most highly respected leaders of the Arab nobility during the jaahiliyyah (time of ignorance) was marrying his daughter, Umm Iyas to al-Harith ibn ‘Amr al-Kindi and as she was made ready to be taken to the groom, her mother, Umaamah came into her room to advise her and said, ‘"O my daughter, if it were deemed unnecessary to give you this advice because of good manners and noble descent, then it would have been unnecessary for you, because you possess these qualities. But it (the following advice) will...
Getting Married 15 Nov 2009 Hits:1128
What it Means to be a Wife
Although the following advice is for brothers, it paints a beautiful picture of what a wife should truly be like... By getting married you are not just getting a wife, you are getting your whole world. From now until the rest of your days your wife will be your partner, your companion, and your best friend. She will share your moments, your days, and your years. She will share your joys and sorrows, your successes and failures, your dreams and your fears. When you are ill, she will take the best care of you; when you need help, she will do...
Getting Married 16 Nov 2009 Hits:890
Before I say 'Yes'
Here we stand, apart, not touching, not looking. Tomorrow is our nikaah (marriage). But today, it is as if we are standing at the edge of the sea, the tide coming in to meet us. We are almost ready to plunge into the rolling surf and swim out to the world of tomorrow, with its far-off horizon. Families, words of praise and recommendation, questions and shy glances are behind us now. You have seen what pleases you. And I have seen what pleases me. But I have not seen your heart. And you have not seen mine. And so now, before our...
Getting Married 05 Aug 2010 Hits:691
Dear Sister, Choose a Good Husband!
One of the ways in which Islaam has honoured woman is by giving her the right to choose her husband. Her parents have no right to force her to marry someone she dislikes. The Muslim woman knows this right, but she does not reject the advice and guidance of her parents when a potential suitor comes along, because they have her best interests at heart, and they have more experience of life and people. There are many texts that support the woman in this sensitive issue, for example the report quoted by Imaam al-Bukhaari from al-Khansa’ bint Khidam, “My father married...
Getting Married 05 Aug 2010 Hits:884
Istikhaarah: The Guidance Prayer
As humans, we are truly powerless, especially when it comes to the unseen future. So why shouldn't we turn to Allaah and seek His perfect help whenever we require it? Allaah responds to the call of His servant when he asks Him for guidance. After all, we are seeking to do something in order to please Him. Istikhaarah means to ask Allah to guide you to the path best for you between two Islamically permissible options. In matters that are waajib (obligatory), haraam (forbidden) or makrooh (disliked) there is no need to pray Istikhaarah. Salaat-ul-Istikharah should only be used for matters...
Getting Married 05 Aug 2010 Hits:597
Is Marriage Desirable in Islaam?
We find that in the Qur'aan Allah, the Glorious, says, {And He it is Who has created man from water; then He has made for him blood relationship and marriage relationship. And thy Lord is ever Powerful.} [Qur'aan 25:54] {One of His signs is this: that He has created mates for you from yourselves that you might find tranquility in them, and He has put between you love and compassion. Surely there are signs in this for a people who reflect.} [Qur'aan 30:21] Allah, the Most High, also mentions how marriage was also practised by many of the Prophets who came before the...
Getting Married 05 Aug 2010 Hits:352
Marriage: Would You Marry You?
One of the first things that most people think about when preparing for or thinking about marriage, are the characteristics or qualities of the person they would like to marry. Some people think about how they want their potential husband or wife to look - perhaps they think about such things as hair and skin color. Some men may look for a wife who is an excellent cook, and some women may look for a husband who is very religious. Many Muslims nowadays look for a wife or husband that is conversant in the Arabic language, or someone that is...
Getting Married 05 Aug 2010 Hits:524
The Phenomenon of Spinsterhood
If we were to take a look at the various communities around the world, we would come to see that there has been a major change in the social circumstances of people which has affected the lives of individuals, aswell as families, and has had a very negative impact on them. Matters which used to be easy and facilitated have now became very difficult and complicated, and this in turn has brought about a new and dangerous phenomena, which one fears will in the long run cause a major commotion in the Muslim nation and adversely affect the stability of...
Getting Married 05 Aug 2010 Hits:1406
What Islaam Says About Dating
The most common questions I get from young people are, "Do Muslims date?" and, "If they don't date, how do they decide whose the right person for them to marry?" "Dating" as it is currently practiced in much of the world does not exist among Muslims - where a young man and woman (or boy/girl) are in a one-on-one intimate relationship, spending time together alone, "getting to know each other" in a very deep way before deciding whether that's the person they want to marry. Rather, in Islaam pre-marital relationships of any kind between members of the opposite sex are forbidden. The...
Getting Married 05 Aug 2010 Hits:609
My Big Fat Haraam Wedding
In order to get married we may get tempted to do things, which will displease Allah (swt). In order to find the right person we may date or go to mixed weddings and not wear hijaab to attract a potential suitor or choose not to wear hijaab on the wedding day. We may date our fiancée before the wedding or we may waste money on things which aren’t needed like the ice swan, the water feature, the expensive orchids and the circus acrobat. We may have music or a DJ with a dance floor. We may have ceremonies, which are...
Getting Married 27 Apr 2011 Hits:385
Getting Married