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He said, “Her husband.” She asked, "And who has the greatest rights over a man?” He said, “His mother.”
In-laws are the focus of blame and reproach when there are marital disputes. But there are ways to maintain a good relationship with them. Here are some tips:
Remember your spouse's parents have known them longer and loved them longer. Never make an issue about "me or them".
Let respective parties settle their own disputes. If your mother-in-law has a problem with her husband, let them deal with it. Don't interfere
Don't tell your spouse how to improve their relationship with their parents.
Expect some adjustment time for parents after marriage to adjust to this new relationship.
Remember that mothers are usually skeptical about daughter-in-laws... The In-Laws 07 Jan 2012 Hits:34 With my in-laws back living with me alhamdulillah, it took me to thinking about living harmoniously and issues of control, privacy and co-operation.
I enjoy my in-laws extended visits, especially the long meals, the long walks and the long talks. This means that at the moment our home is busy but pleasant. It hasn’t always been this way though and it has taken a bit of work and growing up for everyone to get to this point.
Mum-in-Law
The first time my mother-in-law came to stay there were tears, arguments and sulks on both sides, with my poor husband trying to mediate as... The In-Laws 28 Sep 2011 Hits:259 One of the ways in which a wife expresses her respect towards her husband is by honouring and respecting his mother.
The Muslim woman who truly understands the teachings of her religion knows that the person who has the greatest right over a man is his mother, as one notes in many Prophetic Narrations, such as,
‘Aa'ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) asked the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him), “Who has the greatest rights over a woman?” He said, “Her husband.” She asked, "And who has the greatest rights over a man?” He said, “His mother.” (Reported... The In-Laws 16 Nov 2009 Hits:1253 Poison Your Mother-in-Law... A long time ago in China, a girl named Li-Li got married and went to live with her husband and mother-in-law. In a very short time, Li-Li found that she couldn't get along with her mother-in-law at all. Their personalities were very different, and Li-Li was angered by many of her mother-in-law's habits. In addition, she criticised Li-Li constantly.
Days passed days, and weeks passed weeks. Li-Li and her mother-in-law never stopped arguing and fighting. But what made the situation even worse was that, according to ancient Chinese tradition, Li-Li had to bow to her mother-in-law and obey... The In-Laws 16 Nov 2009 Hits:965 I distinctly remember before getting married, I was willing to put up with anything, except living with in-laws. It seems selfish and harsh, but that was the case, as it is with so many other women going into marriage. Why is this so? Why are we taught to think that the in-laws will be our worst enemies?
Wherever we look, whether it is in the movies or on popular TV sitcoms, the in-laws are made fun of, they show that never can anyone have a peaceful relationship with their in-laws. But, is this really the case? Can we actually have a... The In-Laws 16 Nov 2009 Hits:529 A world at war! No doubt George Bush has propelled himself to the top of the Most Famous Villain of All Times list. But for some women, Georgie Boy takes second place. So who is more villainous than villainy itself? You've guessed it! First prize for the Most Famous Villain of All Times award goes to none other than the Oscar-winning Frankenstein's monster impersonator — The Indian mother-in-law.
She's mean, even spiteful; finicky to the point of allowing the kitchen tap to face one direction only. She loves her sport (especially the kind that involves a screaming match between you and... The In-Laws 16 Nov 2009 Hits:1732 We often hear of problems that occur between women and their mothers in-law. There are many factors that contribute to the bitter relationship that some women have with their mothers in-law; some of which, are:
Lack of respect: Respect for others is a fine quality to possess; it is never that it is practiced between people except that love and harmony will engulf them. Islaam has commanded the young to show respect towards their elders, and thus, respecting one's mother in-law is a must. This is due to the fact that not only is she an elder, but also because she... The In-Laws 16 Nov 2009 Hits:1180 A Muslim woman should understand that differences are human nature; human beings are not all the same in terms of attitude, religious commitment, reasoning and behaviour. You should also pay attention to the fact that when a person grows older, their reasoning diminishes and they become childlike in many ways.
A Muslim woman should also remember that you are dealing with your husband’s mother, and sometimes mothers-in-law feel as jealous of ... The In-Laws 01 Sep 2010 Hits:918 It's a syndrome that we daughters-in-laws all suffer from at times. Disastrous is exactly what it is, for it obstructs peace and harmony in every family where the daughter-in-law manifests symptoms. For some of us it's a passing phase, like passing from adolescence to adulthood, while for others adulthood never comes, so the syndrome becomes chronic and general unhappiness is always the result thereof.
Because I received a fair amount of flak after publishing "Advice to the Mother-in-Law" last month and had a good many daughters-in-law smiling benignly at their mothers-in-law when they shrewdly showed them the article, I felt a... The In-Laws 16 Nov 2009 Hits:782 Some mothers in-law have an unintended and uncontrollable feeling of rejection and resentment towards their daughters in-law. This could be caused by one of the following three reasons:
First: The eldest son is a source of compassion and love which mothers benefit from, especially at old age; therefore, they would not have good feelings towards those whom they think would deprive them from such a source.
Second: The mother, who has spent her entire life raising and caring for her children, finds it difficult to accept that the daughter in-law, who has never shouldered such responsibilities, is able to properly care for... The In-Laws 17 Nov 2009 Hits:919 Tides of disagreement & inquisitiveness emanated from her beady eyes as she unflinchingly stared towards me with disagreement & distaste.
My auntie was obviously not 100% happy with the idea of Muslim women practicing segregation from their brothers-in-law. I emphatically stressed that a Muslim woman should try her best to practice segregation from her brother-in-law, even if they live in the same home and even if he is years younger than her and even if the sister-in-law sees him like her brother or son. Baffled and perplexed, she hesitated at first then spoke with determination (obviously not agreeing with what I... The In-Laws 25 Oct 2009 Hits:1210 The Sad Reality
A common and popular tradition in Indo-Pak weddings is to see the sister-in-law and her friends come and sit at the foot of the brother-in-law. The cameraman and the photographer are both recording and taking pictures of these moments which weigh heavy upon the scale of deeds. Laughing, giggling and fully dressed up, they offer their brother-in-law milk to drink, asking money from him in return. And if they have had the chance to steal his shoes, they offer him his shoes back for money in exchange. All the while the guidance of the Prophet (prayers and peace... The In-Laws 25 Oct 2009 Hits:855 One of the signs of a flowers life and well-being is the beautiful scent that emanates from it; in the same way the modesty which emanates from the Muslim Woman is a sign of the life of her eeman (faith). Mixing unreservedly with the brother-in-law can result in modesty being watered down, which is worrying as the Prophet [(prayers and peace be upon him) said, “…modesty is a branch of faith.”(Saheeh Muslim, Book 1, Hadith 56)
A Muslim woman should not belittle any commandment of Allah ('azza wa jall) and his Rasool (prayers and peace be upon him). Allah ('azza... The In-Laws 25 Oct 2009 Hits:929
The Third is Satan:
May Allah ('azza wa jall) shower His peace and blessings on our Beloved Nabi (sallallahu a’lyhi wa sallam), for by his words Allah ('azza wa jall) brought to light much of what is hidden from our vision, bringing us from the darkness of ignorance towards the illuminating light of knowledge. Allah ('azza wa jall) says, “Allah is the Walee [Friend and Protector] of those who have faith: from the depths of darkness He will lead them forth into light.” (Al-Baqarah [2]:257)
One such example is when the Prophet (sallallahu 'alyhi wa sallam) stated in clear... The In-Laws 25 Oct 2009 Hits:1167 Keeping Strong With Dhikr: I’m sure many sisters would agree that a lot of their time goes into completing chores within their homes. Without a doubt, this duty can turn into a great blessing if a sister has the intention to please her Lord by fulfilling her role with warmth, care and attention. In fact, one can take it a step further and use this time to do the dhikr (remembrance) of Allah.In this way, as the Muslim Woman walks around her home completing her daily chores, her being will be full of deep faith, love and conviction in her... The In-Laws 25 Oct 2009 Hits:721 The Muslim woman must be wise and prudent in safeguarding her dignity and honour. Times are swiftly changing and a clever woman is she who protects herself and realises her high worth and dignity as a believer, even if she trusts the same men that the Shar’iah (chronicles of Islamic Law) has outlined as potential threats to her chastity and hereafter.
Today, when dressing immodestly has become the social norm and to speak out against it may adjudge you to be a social outcast, you – the Muslim woman – must stand strong against such vicious tides. You must remember that... The In-Laws 26 Apr 2011 Hits:881 Mujaahidaat:
Women who struggle in the way of Allah (‘azza wa jall) are referred to as ‘Mujaahidaat’. Usually ‘Jihaad’ is understood to mean an action done by men in the battlefield; although this is true, the linguistic meaning of Jihaad is not solely restricted to this. The term Jihaad comes from the term juhd, which means to strain, exert and take pains when doing something. Therefore, although a Sister is not religiously obliged to go and fight in the battlefield, she is nevertheless tested in different ways throughout her life for which she has to struggle and take great... The In-Laws 03 May 2011 Hits:764Quick Tips on How to Deal with In-Laws
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The 'Brother'-in-Law: Statements of the Scholars [1/7]
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The ‘Brother’-in-Law: The Sad Reality [2/7]
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The ‘Brother’-in-Law: Etiquettes to be Maintained [3/7]
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The ‘Brother’-in-Law: Etiquettes to be Maintained [4/7]
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The ‘Brother’-in-Law: Etiquettes to be Maintained [5/7]
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The ‘Brother’-in-Law: Tabarruj [6/7]
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The ‘Brother’-in-Law: In Conclusion [7/7]
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