"Never do I argue with a man with a desire to hear him say what is wrong, or to expose him and win victory over him. Whenever I face an opponent in debate I silently pray ‘O lord, help him so that truth may flow from his heart and on his tongue, and so that if truth is on my side, he may follow me; and if truth be on his side, I may follow him."
- Imam ash-Shafi’ee
| 33.6% |  | United States |
| 29.4% |  | United Kingdom |
| 4.9% |  | Canada |
| 3.5% |  | India |
| 3% |  | Malaysia |
| 2.9% |  | Pakistan |
| 2.7% |  | Japan |
| 2.5% |  | Saudi Arabia |
| 1.9% |  | Australia |
| 1.8% |  | United Arab Emirates |
| Today: | 200 |
| Yesterday: | 325 |
| This Week: | 200 |
| Last Week: | 1927 |
Polygyny/ Polygamy
Allah, the Glorious and Mighty, says in the Qur'aan,
"If you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, marry women of your choice, two or three or four. But if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with them, then only one." (Qur'aan, [4]:3)
Islaam regulated matrimony in that men are permitted to marry up to four wives provided they treat them fairly and equally. The man must first be financially capable to take another wife, provide different residences and be able to divide his time equally amongst them.
In the western society many men who are married to only one wife usually have extramarital affairs. Thus a survey was published in the USA Today (April 4, 1988; Section D) which asked 4700 mistresses, what would they like their status to be (mistress or second wife). They said,
"I prefer being a second wife rather... Polygyny/ Polygamy 15 Feb 2011 Hits:555 A study of polygamy in Russia suggests we have a lot to learn about how to beat the recession.A study of polygamy in Russia might not seem an obvious place to look for insights into how the financial crisis might play out in suburban Kent or rural Yorkshire. But Caroline Humphrey, Sigrid Rausing professor of collaborative anthropology at Cambridge University, says central Asia and Russia have much to teach us.
“In the 1990s, Russia and central Asia experienced huge economic change: what a bank was, how your career was going, what you could expect from life, everything changed overnight,”
she explains.
“And... Polygyny/ Polygamy 17 Jan 2010 Hits:367
It has been misunderstood for years that Islam does not give equal rights to men and women, and that it considers women only as subjects of comfort for males. This opinion has been delivered time and time again by renowned women activists, although their basis of arguments are only alleged facts. Their main argument is against the permission given for polygamy in Islam.
Islam's approach to polygamy is most balanced and rational and is based on the moral, psychological and physiological demands of men and women. It should be remembered that taking more than one wife is only permissible, not... Polygyny/ Polygamy 17 Jan 2010 Hits:493
An Ancient Practice
Polygamy is a very ancient practice found in many human societies. The Bible did not condemn polygamy. To the contrary, the Old Testament and Rabbinic writings frequently attest to the legality of polygamy. King Solomon is said to have had 700 wives and 300 concubines.{footnote}Kings 11:3{/footnote} Also, king David is said to have had many wives and concubines.{footnote}Samuel 5:13{/footnote} The Old Testament does have some injunctions on how to distribute the property of a man among his sons from different wives.{footnote}Deut. 22:7{/footnote} The only restriction on polygamy is a ban on taking a wife's sister as a rival... Polygyny/ Polygamy 19 Jan 2010 Hits:504 Muslims are often accused of being promiscuous because polygamy is legal in Islam, even though Islam did not actually introduce polygamy. Unrestricted polygamy was practiced in most human societies throughout the world in every age. Islam regulated polygamy by limiting the number of wives and establishing responsibility in its practice.Monogamy of the West has been inherited from Greece and Rome, where men were restricted by law to one wife but were free to have as many mistresses among the majority slave population as they wished. In the West today, most married men have extramarital relations with mistresses, girlfriends and prostitutes.... Polygyny/ Polygamy 19 Jan 2010 Hits:575 The wisdom in limiting the number of wives specifically to four:
"...This is from the completeness of His blessing and Shari'ah, and is in accordance with His wisdom, mercy, and benefit for His servants. This is because one of the purposes of marriage is sexual intercourse and the fulfillment of one's desire, and from the people are those who are overtaken by their desire, and are not satisfied with one. Therefore, He allowed him (the man) a second, third, and fourth one (i.e. three additional wives)...and the Legislator has attached numerous rulings to this number (three), as He has allowed... Polygyny/ Polygamy 19 Jan 2010 Hits:403 The following interview was taken with two co-wives living in Australia.
The first wife, Khadija (not her real name), has three children and the second wife, Amina (not her real name), was single with six children when she married into this situation. Khadija and Amina knew each other for a long time before the second marriage.
"I have always admired her," said Khadija.
Khadija's family roots are in South Africa, but she said, "Culturally speaking, I'm Australian."
The husband is Algerian, and Amina is a revert to Islam and an Australian.
Khadija and Amina agree that there are a number of polygynous marriages that... Polygyny/ Polygamy 19 Jan 2010 Hits:923 As an American woman embracing Islam, there are often hurdles and challenges to be met. One of the most difficult aspects of Islam for me to accept was the permissibility of polygyny. The very thought of it seemed so bizarre and I chose to ignore it rather than accept it or to ever take part in it.
I embraced Islam about seven years ago. This was also the beginning of a long struggle in search of the perfect husband and father-figure for my children and me. I was provided a guardian (Wali) by my community in order to handle this matter... Polygyny/ Polygamy 19 Jan 2010 Hits:366 With the Name of Allah, the Most Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy"Who is he that will lend to Allah a goodly loan so that He may multiply it to him many times? And it is Allah that decreases or increases (your provisions), and unto Him you shall return". (Al-Baqarah, 2:245)Narrated Abu Musa (radhi-allaahu 'anhu): The Prophet (sallahu 'alayhi wa sallam) said, "A faithful believer to a faithful believer is like the bricks of a wall, enforcing each other." While saying that the Prophet (sallahu alayhi wa sallam) clasped his hands, by interlacing his fingers. (Bukhaari vol. 1, hadith #... Polygyny/ Polygamy 15 Feb 2011 Hits:470 I look at dealing with polygyny as I do with any other act of 'ibaadah. As Muslims we are constantly supposed to be striving to perfect our 'ibaadah of Allah, all aspects of it, whether it is perfecting our Salaat, perfecting our 'Ilm of this Deen, perfecting our abilities in being a daa'eeyah, perfecting being a righteous and pious wife and mother, etc. We should never get to a point with anything in this deen where we say, "I have done enough. I am perfect in this."A'oodhubillah from falling into such transgression. We can never "do enough" for Allah, subhaanahu... Polygyny/ Polygamy 15 Feb 2011 Hits:219 Over the years, polygyny has played a role in my life in many ways. When I was a single Muslimah, I had several proposals for polygyny and have witnessed polygyny attempts... and failures. One might think that with my attitude towards it, I might have been a willing candidate for polygyny.
As I mentioned in an earlier post, I always looked at it with the questions:
What is the benefit for him?
What is the benefit for me?
What is the benefit for his family?
What are the losses for him?
What are the losses for me?
What are the losses for his family?
Does his wife want... Polygyny/ Polygamy 17 Sep 2011 Hits:98 This is the letter I wrote to my second co-wife. Qadr Allah, I never got to meet her as the situation didn't work out. I pray Allah gives her something far better - aameen!
However, this letter was something I sent to set the stage and let her know where I was coming from. I will say that this was for an American co-wife, someone who had researched me and asked common friends about me prior to marrying our husband. She was also similar in age, hence she held a special attraction for me - a sister who would be... Polygyny/ Polygamy 17 Sep 2011 Hits:398 This is a sensitive subject, but it is the biggest and hardest aspect to deal with for many women in polygyny - marital intimacy. I know that many women feel that they never want their husbands to touch them again once he's been with another woman. They struggle with feelings of diminished confidence, jealousy, suspicion that he is lying when he says he still wants them, and disgust. It can be even harder because, with polygyny, it is not a secret; he has legitimately taken another wife and is living with her for part of the time.
I'm sure some of... Polygyny/ Polygamy 17 Sep 2011 Hits:150What's Better: Being a Co-Wife or a Mistress?
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