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- Imaam Ibn al-Qayyim
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The Messenger of Allaah (sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam) said,
"When a man dies, all his acts come to an end but three; recurring charity, or knowledge (by which people) benefit, or a pious son, who prays for him (i.e. for the deceased)." (Saheeh Muslim)
A woman came home from work late, tired and irritated, to find her 5-year old son waitin g for her at the door.
Son,
'Mummy, may I ask you a question?'
Mum, 'Yeah sure, what is it?' replied the woman.Son,
'Mummy, how much do you make an hour?'
Mum, 'That's none of your business. Why do you ask such a thing?' the woman said angrily.Son,
'I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?'
Mum,
'If you must know, I make an hour.'
Son,
'Oh,'
the little boy replied, with his head down.Son,
"Mummy,... Raising Children 24 Aug 2010 Hits:230 1. Knowledge of and love for Allah and the Deen.
This is one of the most precious and enduring gifts you can pass down to your daughter, one that will benefit her in this life and the next.
2. Memorisation of the Qur’aan.
No matter how little you have memorised yourself, push your daughter to memorise as much she can. Encourage her and help her to revise. It will stand her in good stead in her life and will be a source of reward for you after your death as well.
3. A good example of Muslim womanhood.
Most girls look to... Raising Children 24 Dec 2009 Hits:548 1 - Raising children is complex, as they are in need of patience and management.
Some children are in need of gentleness, kindness, not raising your voice at them; such children should be dealt with without stubbornness. Other children are in need of sternness, but this sternness should not exceed the limit. If it is exceeded, then the child will become stubborn and non-compliant towards his parents’ guidance. We ask Allah to provide us with good protection and care since there is an immense responsibility around the necks of the parents.
Allah, the Exalted, said, “O you who possess Eemaan (faith),... Raising Children 24 Dec 2009 Hits:470
The most important thing we've learned,
So far as children are concerned,
Is never, NEVER, NEVER let
Them near your television set --
Or better still, just don't install
The idiotic thing at all.
In almost every house we've been,
We've watched them gaping at the screen.
They loll and slop and lounge about,
And stare until their eyes pop out.
(Last week in someone's place we saw
A dozen eyeballs on the floor.)
They sit and stare and stare and sit
Until they're hypnotised by it,
Until they're absolutely drunk
With all that shocking ghastly junk.
Oh yes, we know it keeps them still,
They don't climb out the window sill,
They never fight or kick... Raising Children 27 Dec 2009 Hits:553 Providing children with Islamic education and raising them up as good practicing Muslims are essential duties of parenthood. Rightfully fulfilling these duties will lead to the Pleasure of Allah and good for the parents and the child in this life and the Hereafter. However, ignoring these duties would lead to the destruction of the child's Hereafter and the Wrath of Allah may befall the parents for not protecting their child from the traps of Shaytaan and allowing him to choose the path of destruction. Allah's Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said, "Each of you is a shepherd... Raising Children 02 Jan 2010 Hits:506 The more TV a toddler watches, the higher the likelihood they will do badly at school and have poor health at the age of 10, researchers warn.
The study of 1,300 children by Michigan and Montreal universities found negative effects on older children rose with every hour of toddler TV.
Performance at school was worse, while consumption of junk foods was higher.
UK experts said parents could allow young children to watch "some" high quality TV.
The study, part of the Quebec Longitudinal Study of Child Development Main Exposure, asked parents how much TV their children watched at 29 months (two years and five... Raising Children 28 May 2010 Hits:227 Children are easily influenced by their surroundings. These days, it is extremely difficult to expose our children to an ideal Islamic environment given the influences from media, friends and even other members of the family.
With television, radio, Internet and forms of media mostly touting un-Islamic values, it is up to parents and adults close to the children to set the correct example.
It is impossible to shield our children from all the negative forces that can shape their minds and, ultimately, their behavior.
However, by our own example and showing them better options, we can set them on the true path, which... Raising Children 28 May 2010 Hits:389 Indeed, Allah has created children with a pure innate nature, and whatever defects that sink in later on are due to a number of reasons. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, is reported to have said, “Every child is born on Fitrah (man’s innate disposition to monotheism), his parents make him Jewish, Christian or a fire worshipper.” (Reported by Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
Islaam commands the parents to take care of their children and to bring them up according to Islamic manners. Allah, the Almighty, has entrusted parents with their children. Therefore, parents bear the responsibility to... Raising Children 28 May 2010 Hits:571 When you thought I wasn't looking,
I saw you hang my first painting on the refrigerator, and I immediately wanted to paint another one.
When you thought I wasn't looking,
I saw you feed a stray cat, and I learnt that it was good to be kind to animals.
When you thought I wasn't looking,
I saw you make my favorite cake for me and I learnt that the little things can be the special things in life.
When you thought I wasn't looking,
I heard you say a prayer, and I knew there is a God I could always talk to... Raising Children 28 May 2010 Hits:223 Parents of young children (preschool age) should have few expectations in terms of behavior and acquisition of knowledge due to the cognitive limitations at this age. This does not mean that children should be allowed to run about and do as they please; they still require guidelines and boundaries.
What it does mean is that care should be taken regarding the methods that are used to raise children and the values that are instilled from the very beginning. It is interesting to note that the Arabic term tarbiyyah, which is often used to mean teaching or training, generally refers to growth,... Raising Children 28 May 2010 Hits:229 Parents worry more about their child in adolescence for the fact that this is a period of his sudden metamorphosis in life. Small children do normally mirror what parents have taught them. But in adolescence things could go different and parents need to consider their child as an individual in his own right. This difference from the parents should not only be tolerated but encouraged. Conscientious parents adjust to this reality and behave in a reassuring manner towards their child.
The Change
Adolescence is a stage that has its unique features. It is not a period of pinpoint accuracy for an... Raising Children 28 May 2010 Hits:318 Many times parents and adults do things intentionally or unintentionally that may set a bad example to their children and other youngsters around. Below would be some such situations and advises on how to set a better example for your youngsters.
Lying
"Tell them I'm not here," we yell at our spouse or children as the telephone rings. Although we might not have noticed it, we have just set an example of lying for our children. When they see us lying, they may say to themselves that it's okay to lie. Dad and mom do it. If we had been more conscious... Raising Children 28 May 2010 Hits:212 Have you had a meaningful conversation together? Do you know what your child accomplished today, how he may be feeling, whether or not he has any concerns? Does your child know that you care about him? In Islaam, the ties of kinship and family are very strong and something that will always be present throughout our lifetime. There are very serious consequences for someone who decides to break these ties.
Allah (subhanahu wa ta'ala) says, {Then, is it to be expected of you, if you were put in authority, that you will do mischief in the land, and break your ties... Raising Children 28 May 2010 Hits:237 School violence. The very words send shivers down a parent's spine. Does the phrase school bully evoke the same emotions? It should. As subtle as it may seem, bullying is a form of violence. Experts estimate that almost 75% of today's youth will be involved in some aspect of bullying before they enter high school. And the chances are, your child will be one of the statistics. Long gone is the idea that bullying is a natural process of youth, a coming of age. It is unacceptable behaviour and the long lasting ramifications are far too great to ignore.
Before you can... Raising Children 28 May 2010 Hits:256 1st Home
"I got two A's," the small boy said, His voice was filled with glee. His Father very bluntly asked,"Why didn't you get three A's?"
"Mom, I've done the dishes," The girl called from the door. Her Mother very sarcastically asked,"Did you sweep the floor?"
"I mowed the grass," the teenage boy said, "And put the mower away." His Father asked him with a shrug. "Did you clean the car too?"
The children in the house next door seemed happy and content. The same thing happened over there, but this is how it went:
2nd Home
"I got two A's,"... Raising Children 28 May 2010 Hits:318 Wake up parents before it's too late! Wake up before your time is over and you are full of regrets and wishes... wishing that you had raised your child in a better manner; wishing you had taken the time to enjoy every blessing your child had to offer; wishing that you had hugged or kissed your child more often.
The moments of childhood can never be replaced. You will never be able to get back the experiences that were available to you when your child was 3 months or 1 year or 5 or 10 years. They will pass quickly --... Raising Children 28 May 2010 Hits:565 In a far away land, a long time ago, a boy was born blind. His widowed mother, the good Muslimah that she was, did not lose hope in her supplication and prayers for him, which she did continuously. A few years later, the boy’s sight returned. Alhamdulillaah.
She realized that her village was not befitting for her son to excel in his Islamic education, so with her son in her hands they undertook a difficult migration to Makkah. There she made sure that he was instructed in Qur'aan and Hadith, the latter becoming the young man’s focus. He went out far... Raising Children 31 Aug 2010 Hits:263 By reading to our children we not only teach them that learning is fun, we also show them by our own example. Allaah, the All-Mighty says (what means), "...Allaah will raise those who have believed among you and those who were given knowledge, by degrees..." [Quran 58: 11]While it is true that the knowledge that is referred to in the above verse is regarding Islamic knowledge, there is no doubt that throughout Islamic history from the time of the Prophet (sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam) until present day there has been a common understanding that striving to learn and educate ourselves... Raising Children 10 Sep 2010 Hits:171 Those of you who still have your mothers with you, this is something to ponder and to witness as your life unfolds. Those of you who, no longer have your mothers with you, this may be something that sparks a memory for you. Those of you who are mothers, this is something for you to think about as you move through life with your children. Those who have no children, this is something to think about when you encounter children along your life's path, as mothering is not relegated to a biological parent only!!!
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The young mother set her foot on... Raising Children 13 Sep 2010 Hits:291 As Allah (ta'ala) states, it is part of our belief that we shall be questioned and are responsible for the following, "Verily! Hearing, Sight, and the heart, all will be questioned (by Allâh)". (Al-Israaa' [17]:36)
The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said that on the Day of Repayment, no one will move until they are asked about three things, one of them being, "...his youth - what did he exhaust it with?"
A close friend of mine told me his experience when leaving Canada to go overseas inorder to study Islaam. He said that he went to a person's house... Raising Children 13 Sep 2010 Hits:228 The great scholar, Muhammad ibn Ismaa'eel (of Egypt) describes the role of the Muslim woman in raising the leaders of the Ummah (Muslim Nation), their scholars and great men.
1- The Imaam of the people of ash-Shaam, their Faqeeh (jurist): Abu ‘Amr al-Awzaa’i (ahimahullah).
Imaam an-Nawawi said about al-Awzaa'i (rahimahullah),
"The scholars agree on the imaamah (religious leadership) of al-Awzaa’i, his high position and merits.The sayings of the Salaf (pious predecessors) are many and known about his fear, zuhd (asceticism), worship and how he stood for the truth, aswell as his many narrations and deep fiqh (Islamic Jurisprudence).He would hold on to... Raising Children 27 Sep 2010 Hits:209 1. Commit to Raising A Moral Child
How important is it for you to raise a moral child? It's a crucial question to ask, because research finds that parents who feel strongly about their kids turning out morally usually succeed because they committed themselves to that effort. If you really want to raise a moral child, then make a personal commitment to raise one.
2. Be a Strong Moral Example
Parents are their children's first and most powerful moral teachers, so make sure the moral behaviors your kids are picking up from you are ones that you... Raising Children 03 Jun 2011 Hits:114Make Time For Children!
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