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Domestic Violence
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said:
“From among the believers are those who have the kindest disposition and are the kindest to their families- such are those who show the most perfect faith. The best among them are those who are kindest to their wives.” [Bukhari and Muslim]
A husband disciplining his wife is subject to the condition that it should not cause injury. It is for women who are recalcitrant and have evil and unjustified conduct towards their husbands. This disciplinary action must be done by one who fears Allah and wishes to keep marital matters private; in no way does Islam sanction domestic violence.
There is a huge difference between this disciplinary measure and abuse perpetrated by unrefined, ignorant, non-religious and hot-headed individuals. Abuse must stop and the appropriate measures to prevent it must be taken. Sisters should also fear Allah and maturely deal with and change any recalcitrance and refractoriness on their part.
It is noteworthy to mention that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) never beat any of his wives.
Domestic violence is not a phenomena restricted to a particular ethnic, cultural, religious or geographic group. It is a problem in almost all societies at varying levels, whether it is the most industrialized nations or the poorer ones. While resources which help women and men deal with domestic violence are greater in industrialized nations, individuals in Third World countries can also break out of the domestic violence cycle in other ways.
Here are some tips:
1. Know this is not Islamic
This knowledge is your most powerful ally against those who justify wife abuse.
There is no doubt that physical abuse of wives at... Domestic Violence 05 Aug 2010 Hits:194 Friends are one of the first people victims of domestic violence turn to for help, no matter where they are from. Your role as a silent supporter and source of comfort cannot be underestimated in an environment where there are few resources for women who are victims of domestic violence.
Here are some practical things you can do if you have a friend suffering from domestic violence:
1. Know what it is
Knowing what is considered abuse is necessary. Abuse includes slapping, punching, kicking, cursing, insulting and humiliating. None of this behavior is acceptable, especially in a relationship which is meant to foster... Domestic Violence 05 Aug 2010 Hits:182 If you have a friend who is a victim of domestic violence, you're not alone. Relatives and friends are those people who victims will confide in in these situations. But don't feel helpless as your relative or friend confides in you about their abuse. There are practical things you can do to help at this time of trial and difficulty.
Here are some tips:
1. Listen This is one of the most important things you can do. Remember that they are confiding in you while they have kept this problem a secret from others. Find a quiet place where you can... Domestic Violence 05 Aug 2010 Hits:180 Of women who reported being raped and/or physically assaulted since the age of 18, three quarters (76 percent) were victimized by a current or former husband, cohabitating partner, date or boyfriend.{footnote}Prevalence Incidence, and Consequences of Violence Against Women: Findings from the National Violence Against Women Survey, U.S. Department of Justice, November, 1998.{/footnote}
Estimates range from 960,000 incidents of violence against a current or former spouse, boyfriend, or girlfriend per year to 4 million women who are physically abused by their husbands or live-in partners per year.{footnote}Violence by Intimates: Analysis of Data on Crimes by Current or Former Spouses, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends,... Domestic Violence 05 Aug 2010 Hits:252 Shaykh Munajjid provides some excellent advice for a sister in such a situation:
‘…There is no true alternative except to turn to Allah. For, He is the One Who makes a way out of every difficult situation.
The following are a few points of advice:
• Your husband needs someone to advise him - look around for a suitable person to do this.
• Avoid making him angry. Again, avoid making him angry as much as you can.
• Whoever sees the problems of others will see his or her own problem in perspective. There are husbands who beat their wives on the face, injure... Domestic Violence 28 Sep 2010 Hits:350 In a marriage, both parties need to put forth effort, be committed, and be respectful for the union to be a mutually satisfying and loving one. When both partners are emotionally well balanced and the relationship dynamic is healthy, this work can make the marriage enjoyable and successful in the long term. Unfortunately, there are instances where a healthy relationship dynamic is virtually impossible to achieve because of a personality disorder. These disorders affect a person's thinking and behavior in such a way that interpersonal relationships are often very negatively affected.
A personality disorder that is commonly very destructive in relationships... Domestic Violence 01 Oct 2010 Hits:1385
Once the following points are taken into consideration, one will realise that Islaam does not promote nor initiate domestic violence. Rather, there is a disciplinary measure for women have suffer from the ill-conduct of recalcitrancy, but even that is not what we would term 'domestic violence'.
1 – The Qur’aan enjoins good treatment of one's wife; she is to be honoured and treated kindly, even when one no longer feels love in one's heart towards her. Allaah (the Beneficent) says (interpretation of the meaning),
“And live with them honourably. If you dislike them, it may be... Domestic Violence 17 Jan 2011 Hits:190 ‘Domestic violence’ is a term used to describe aggressive, oppressive and ‘dominant’ behaviour adopted by one individual over a fellow human being. This behaviour occurs in families and relationships around the world and across cultures, religions, and race.
Domestic violence manifests itself in various forms - most frequently as physical violence - but can also present itself as emotional abuse and financial abuse. Although it is suffered by both men and women, the majority of the victims are women. In fact, many sufferers fear for the security of their lives, and are hesitant to come forward as a result.
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